The 8 Rules of Blogging

One year ago today I clicked the word publish on this blog. At that very moment Theta Mom was born but never did I imagine how this Mission would resonate with so many and how a true Community would form with the same principles.

Today, I am sharing some posts that directly relate to my blogging experience over the last twelve months. I hope you gain some insight and find inspiration as you read through them. I certainly don’t have all of the answers as I am still learning and navigating my way through this thing called blogging, but what I can offer is what I have learned thus far.

So here are my ‘8 Rules of Blogging’ I’ve come to live by:

1. Set some blog standards. Make some privacy decisions that are right for YOU. Decide whether to share names, other personal information, photos, etc. and make sure it is at your discretion and comfort level. Forget what everyone else is doing – it’s YOUR blog. You call the shots so make your own rules that work for you and live by them.

2. Focus on writing compelling content, creating a clean blog design and integrating social media to get return blog followers. Many followers will come and go but you want to build a readership that will stick around for the long haul.

3. Build your following through the power of social media. Get yourself out there! You could have the most gorgeous blog design and amazing content but if nobody knows you exist, the blog following will not be established. Get active and stay active through various social media platforms that work for you. Network, engage in conversation and continuously put yourself out there.

4. Blogging takes a lot of time, dedication and hard work. You need to balance blogging with the rest of your life or you will quickly land in bloggy burnout. I was on this very road and if I didn’t put my blogging in check I most certainly would have burnt out. Forget the guilt, stress and pressure ‘to keep up’ and remember why you started blogging in the first place.

5. If you choose to perform reviews and giveaways on your blog be sure you know who you are working with. Do your homework on each company and don’t accept every pitch that comes your way. By being very selective with whom you work with will actually make you more marketable.

6. Don’t measure your blog worth in numbers because that’s all they are – a bunch of numbers. Measure your success in rich content and the connections that you make along the way. When you write a post you are most proud of, that is true validation.

7. No matter how successful you are at blogging you will receive some negative comments and not everyone will like you. In fact, some will continue to carry on conversations about you elsewhere. Don’t ever let this get you down. It’s their issue NOT yours. Be confident in what you do and continue to rise above the nonsense because in the end that’s all the negativity is – nonsense.

8. Above all else, blog with a purpose. Find your niche, know who you are and blog to your heart’s content. As long as you stay true to yourself and maintain authenticity in this process your readers couldn’t ask for anything more.

And to my readers, a very special thank you – for making my first full year in the blogosphere such an amazing experience. This blog wouldn’t be all that it is without the support of this readership. I adore each and every comment, subscription, tweet and email.

More than you know.

I am Proud to be a Theta Mom

Motherhood – this road has not been easy but may just be one of the most rewarding jobs on the planet. It’s the most absolutely underpaid gig around and a challenge at every moment but certainly worth the hard work and sacrifices made on a daily basis.

When I found out I was going to be a mother life suddenly looked different. I now had someone else to think about other than myself; someone else to love, care for, worry about endlessly and protect.

In an instant I was a brand new mom and had all of those “new mom” worries, the same kind of fears pregnant moms have when they are preggers for the first time – I know this may sound silly but for me, one of them was feeling a bit nervous to take the baby out for the very first time. Our first outing together (with my less-than-week-old-son at the time) was to the bank and CVS. I carried him around in that little car seat bucket and I was apprehensive to be out with the baby all by myself. What if he cried? What if he pooped? What if I couldn’t calm him down and how would I be able to handle it alone?

Little did I know I would face so many more ‘real’ challenges ahead such as dealing with his shaky health. My son was a very sick baby and for over a year not one specialist could tell us what was wrong with him. Especially as a new parents, it was one of the most difficult experiences we had to face but it certainly aligned our priorities in a heartbeat.

Now when I think back to that first outing with him as an infant, I laugh at how I ‘worried’ so much about the smallest things - I remember thinking how people seemed to be driving too fast and I felt as though they needed to slow down because I had my baby in the car. Didn’t they know? Didn’t they realize? I had an infant in the car and how dare they drive so recklessly! That’s right. Just one outing with my less-than-week-old-son and the world as I knew it had changed on so many levels. Forever.

I began this blog to begin the dialogue of what it means to be a Theta Mom. I wrote a Mission that has been supported by many – and this Mission continues to touch the lives of thousands of readers.

Why?

Because the idea of redefining the role of motherhood resonates with you. You get it. YOU are authentic. You know that this motherhood gig is not always easy and certainly not glamorous – but at the same time you know it is one of the best jobs you will ever have.

I make tons of sacrifices.

I fight with pure abandonment.

I protect without hesitation.

I honor with all my heart.

I love and support unconditionally.

I worry. And worry some more.

I’ve encountered tons of sleepless nights, midnight feedings and 8,259 diaper changes.

I wipe noses, butts, faces and countertops.

The.wiping.never.ends.

I juggle 5,000 things all.the.time.

I balance family, work and life.

I somehow manage to make this all work. Somehow.

I strive to nurture my inner self.

Motherhood is a wonderful extension of who I already am.

I will never lose sight of what is important to me.

I know who I am.

I know what I value.

I know what I want to teach my children.

I continue to dream big dreams for myself and I work at being a role model to my kids.

I make mistakes, many mistakes.

I am far from perfect.

I try and learn from those mistakes and become a better parent in the process.

I want to raise intelligent, mindful, well articulated, caring human beings.

I want them to make a difference in this world.

I want them to chase every single dream no matter how big or small.

I want them to love unconditionally.

I hope that when they leave this Earth, they can say that they lived a full and blessed life.

I hope they know how much their mother loved them, cared for them and honored them.

I hope they fulfill their wildest dreams…every single one and I hope I am alive to witness them all.

I wish nothing but health, happiness and prosperity – every day of their lives.

Yes, motherhood has changed my life.

I have been forever changed – for the better. 

I am proud to be a Theta Mom and I am so glad you are on this journey with me.

If you wrote a “Proud Theta Mom” post be sure to link up and visit other bloggers! The Linky will be up live through Friday so be sure to participate for your chance to win the Modern Bird Studios giveaway! And thank you to everyone who has joined me for this special milestone and to all of the readers who continue to read and support this blog.

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The Celebration is About to Begin

It started with a blog post and almost one year later, many readers have supported this Mission. And now it’s your turn to share with me and the rest of the world what makes you a Theta Mom…

Help me celebrate my very first blogoversary by linking up your post right here at Theta Mom beginning Monday, June 28th. The linky will be open for five days to ensure that everyone who wants to participate will have the opportunity to do so. For full details of this special blogoversary you can click here.

Remember, every blogger who links up and shares a “Proud Theta Mom” post will automatically be entered in the amazing Modern Bird Studios giveaway. The winner of this giveaway will be chosen by me based on the most outstanding blog post. The winner will receive a 12X24 custom piece of art by Modern Bird Studios valued at $280.

So don’t forget to grab the “Proud Theta Mom” button on the right sidebar and link up on Monday! I can’t wait to read every single post to understand why YOU support this mission.

Featured TMC Blogger: Depressions and Confessions

TMC welcomes Alexis, author of the blog Depressions and Confessions. I actually found Alexis through TMC and I am thrilled to have the opportunity to have “met” her. She is a courageous blogger, discussing many topics that some are to afraid to speak of and for that, I really admire her. Aside from rockin’ her new WordPress blog she is one hell of a supporter, too! I don’t think she has ever missed a post at Theta Mom and I couldn’t ask for a better bloggy friend. Here is how she describes her blog in her own words:

“Hey, I’m Alexis. I started blogging three years ago after my son was born, and at first it was mostly family stuff. But then I started noticing that the posts that got the most response were the ones about me. I know, I’m awesome, right? Anyway, what I mean is that people, women especially, were thrilled to hear that they weren’t the only ones who struggled at motherhood and sometimes forgot people’s birthdays and wore vomit as an accessory.

When I was diagnosed with postpartum depression when my first son was 8 months old, it changed my life forever. Not only did I begin treatment, but I also started speaking out about my experience and the support was overwhelming. But when I blogged about it, women came out of the woodwork saying that they wished they could tell their families, or friends, or coworkers, but they were too scared or embarrassed.

So I started a new blog, Depressions and Confessions. It was originally going to be all about the symptoms of and stigma surrounding depression, but three posts into it, I realized it was so…depressing. I couldn’t sustain that kind of blog, because I am not a depressing person. I just happen to have the disorder.

Now, my blog is about the most interesting thing in the entire world…me. Kidding. Kind of. I mostly write about things that bug me, things I wish I understood better, things that make me laugh, and things that other people are too scared to talk about. And in between all of that, I still talk about depression because it’s important.

My favorite part of blogging has been “meeting” amazing women like Heather. I recently was able to wean myself off of antidepressants, and I attribute the success of that to the salvation I receive from talking about my issues and realizing that I am NEVER alone. And neither are you. I hope to see you around my place, can’t wait to meet you!”

Be sure to check her out on the blog and follow her on Twitter

New to TMC? Join us! We LOVE new members!

Life After Yes

***This contest is now closed. Congratulations Heather! An email has been sent.

I have said a million times on this blog that I feel lucky to have met so many amazing women through blogging. And somewhere along my blogging journey I stumbled upon Ivy League Insecurities, a blog written by author Aidan Donnelley Rowley, who just happened to publish her very first novel last month and it is doing amazingly well! I am not surprised though. As I wrote in this post she is clearly one of my favorite bloggers because she is one of the most talented writers I have come across in blogland. I hang on every word when I read her blog and I know that her novel Life After Yes is certainly no different.

I must be honest and tell you that I am nowhere near finished reading Life After Yes but what I can tell you is that from the very first page, I was hooked. Aidan’s writing style is seamless and effortless and her story is so engaging. She writes about themes that every woman can relate to on so many levels. She has a way of capturing the reader’s attention to make us want more…

Taken directly from the back of the book cover so you get a full synopsis of this plot, “Life After Yes is the story of Quinn—born Prudence Quinn O’Malley—a confused young Manhattan attorney who loses her father on that tragic September morning that changed everything. Now, at an existential crossroads in her life, Quinn must confront impossible questions about commitment and career, love and loss. Her idealistic beau desperately wants a wedding, and whisks her away to Paris just to propose. But then Quinn has a dream— featuring judges and handcuffs and Nietzsche and Britney…and far too many grooms. Suddenly, her future isn’t so clear. Quinn’s world has become a minefield of men—some living, some gone, and traversing it safely is going to take a lot more than numerous glasses of pinot grigio.”

To learn more, you can also join Kristen, author of the blog Motherese as she started a fantastic book club centered around Life After Yes and be sure to check out the recent post from Kristen as she has written a wonderful Q&A with Aidan Donnelley Rowley.

You can click here to find out where to purchase a copy of Life After Yes  or you can enter to win because Aidan is giving one lucky Theta Mom reader her very own copy! So how can you win? Simply follow my blog publicly AND leave a comment telling me that you would like to be entered! Easy peasy!!!

*For an extra entry copy/paste the following to tweet: Leave a comment @ThetaMom for your chance to win a copy of Life After Yes by @AdonnRowley http://bit.ly/aLSSgp Please RT

**This giveaway is open to US residents only. It begins on June 24, 2010 and will end on July 1, 2010 at 8 pm. One winner with a valid entry will be selected at random using random.org. The winner will be announced and must respond with a current email address within 48 hours to claim. Otherwise, another eligible entry will be chosen.

Aidan Donnelley Rowley provided me a copy of Life After Yes. I was not compensated for this review. These are my own honest opinions and experience with the novel.