My guest post today is Devan from Accustomed Chaos. In this piece, Devan reminds us that our words do create meaning and the voice we share has a direct impact on others. I hope this post inspires you to think about why you first hit the word publish on your own blog.
Blogging came into my life just over a year ago. I didn’t really think I was going to get too much out of it. I certainly was not planning for anything more than having a few people read my words and having some general conversations on Twitter and Facebook. As I started to write more and feel comfortable sharing more about myself and my life, I began to open up more about my struggles and my pain…
Society does not talk about grief caused by miscarriage – society at large does not even think we should grieve a miscarriage. We are told to just go on with our lives and ‘try again.’ We are left feeling embarrassed, isolated and alone. A pain and isolation I had been walking around with for years surrounding my multiple miscarriages and a pain that is still very real to this day. Blogging and social media sites like Facebook and Twitter break invisible boundaries that are present in real life that should never be there.
Blogging gave me a voice for that pain.
The more I opened up on my personal blog the more I received “me too” comments on my posts and personal emails from women looking for support – looking for connections from someone who had been there. My passion started to grow as I started to see this very real need being forgotten, unspoken. A community was forming, though I was the only one who knew it existed because the real words were being spoken through private emails. I realized that I was not the only one dealing with the depth of my perinatal grief – I was not the only one who craved a connection and a voice.
The incredible power of blogging and connecting through social media is that you are never alone in what you are going through and you will never be alone in your pain. I decided to follow my passion to help women, families, friends and anyone who has been touched directly or indirectly by miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal loss – through blogging and social media; to give those who needed a connection and a voice a safe place to share.
I formed a new site dedicated to support and understanding and to give others a platform to share their stories, their grief, their hopes and dreams. My passion collided with blogging when Unspoken Grief was born. It’s a group contributing site for those looking for a voice for their perinatal grief. Allowing women, partners, friends and family to speak their words and raise their voices, tell their stories and connect.
Blogging and sites like Facebook and Twitter are more powerful then at first glance and I am still daily learning the true power of how it can connect people in different parts of the world who share very similar experiences. THAT is powerful. In no other way would we be able to reach our virtual arms out to someone who feels so alone in their pain.
Connecting people together can do a world of good breaking the silence of miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal loss can heal; supporting each other through our pain, through our hopes and dreams and to have someone who understands and somewhere for your voice to be heard – THAT is the true power of blogging.
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