I recently read a guest post on Elizabeth’s blog that completely resonated with me written by Jeannett from Life Rearranged. She writes so eloquently about the state of the blogosphere in this piece and it’s so damn good, I wish I wrote it myself.
Upon reading her words, I reflected back on a post I wrote not too long ago called Creating Blog Content that I Can Live With. However, the issues Jeannett raised in her post move far beyond the “over-sharing” piece of blogging. She touches on the idea that perhaps bloggers have lost their step, that the pendulum in the big bloggy spectrum has gone too far in the other direction and I couldn’t agree with her more. Jeannett writes,
“It’s the blog posts that decree the importance of painting the “real” picture. It’s the victorious attitude that not only are there failures, but now they are badges of honor…it’s cool to be a crappy mom. It’s funny to say you don’t really like your kids.”
When I started blogging, before I even wrote my first post I created and published a Mission statement. I wanted readers to know when they landed on my blog exactly who I was and what I was about – what this blog was about. And never once in my four years of blogging have I ever swayed from that promise; the promise of keeping this blog an authentic space made up of a supportive community of women who understand each other. But, in the midst of being “real” I have also always remained passionate and professional because I would never publish anything at the expense of another…especially my children.
What saddens me over the last couple of years is the “trend” of blogging I’ve also noticed that is happening for the sake of a popular post or a popular status update. Once day, our children will be old enough to read our blogs and peek through our timelines so the question really becomes, “If your kid read through the years of your digital footprint, would he or she be ok with it all?”
Am I perfect? No, I never claimed to be. Have I created some updates that I wish I didn’t write or share? Absolutely. But have I succumbed to this social media wildfire that seems to put “failed moms” on a pedestal? Absolutely not.
This is where my line is drawn.
Whether you like it or not, if you share on the internet you’re creating a digital footprint and as bloggers, our words do have weight. So before you go blogging every little detail of your “failed life at motherhood” or create those “lame mom” updates, you better think long and hard how this will affect you down the line – especially your children.
Parenting isn’t perfect.
Motherhood isn’t perfect and I started this blog to start that conversation. I, too, want to share the reality of motherhood.
But I am a mom with a moral compass, and for me, no matter how gritty and tough motherhood may get or seem, I will not succumb to the proud “failed mom” status update because that’s just not me.
To the bloggers who are just embarking on this wild crazy journey, before you post that latest blog or embarrassing status update about your kids, or how much motherhood sucks, think of this:
“As we tell the stories of our lives, as we choose the pieces of the journey to tell, let us not forget the little faces we are portraying.”
Lastly, I leave you with this: On mom blogging and our digital footprint – what is the blog legacy you’re creating and how do you want to be remembered?